Do you remember when you were in high school or college and you wanted to join a club or some organization? Clubs are a fun way to mingle with other people that share the same interests. If you are interested in a club, you can apply and be invited to join. Or maybe a friend recommends the club to you and you join due to their recommendation. Either way, joining a club or organization is meant to be fun and engaging or a way to spend time with people who have your same ideas.

Yesterday, I learned of a church friend who has joined my club. You would think that would be fun and exciting and that we are anxiously waiting to get together. Yet, this club that she has now joined with me; we did not want to join. This club was not recommended to us by a friends. I do share a common interest with these woman, but I really don’t want to. I have zero desire to add any more “new members.” In fact when I learned that she was joining, I cried for a long time. Honestly, her joining the club, made me face some pretty strong emotions that I have kept at bay for a while now. So I do not rejoice in her joining us, nor am I happy to have another member. “Mothers of children who have died by suicide” should not be a club that exists!